The woman concentrates 'mindfully' on what she feels without the 'running narrative' of to-do lists and the man focuses on pleasuring her. The woman lies still as her partner - fully clothed and with the lights on - 'puts all of his attention' on her, according to Daedone, stroking her erogenous zone 'not any more more firmly than an eyelid.' In the book, she offers detailed drawings and variations to accommodate same-sex partners.
Unlike tantric sex, which she says is 'radically different,' slow sex uses meditation techniques like mindfulness and focusing on sensitivity and pleasure.
